Resources Wish List
This is a list of resources I would like…. or don’t exist and I would like filled in with suggestions.
Korean Cinema: The New Hong Kong
I would like to buy this resource for the sole reason that I want to know if I can do better than this guy. But realistically, I think I want this book because I want to see if it’s worth the time/effort and if it will help the Adoptive parent connect to the Pop Culture of Korea, which was missing in my Youth. (There are several other books in this area too)
Anti-Bias Curriculum: Tools for Empowering Young Children
This was highly recommended and if it proves to be good, I think it might empower parents to talk to their educators if there is a gap in the curriculum. It’s often easier to talk to someone when you have something you’d like to share with them.
Our Son a Stranger: Adoption Breakdown and Its Effects on Parents
I want to see if the view of adoption has updated a bit… and also look at attachment disorder.
Children’s Adjustment to Adoption: Developmental and Clinical Issues (Developmental Clinical Psychology and Psychiatry)
Mainly to see how the outside world of psychology views adoption in a more modern context. The books from the 1970′s suck. And the books for the 1980′s also sucked. So I want to see if the attitude has changed where the psychologists have stopped trying to blame anyone in the triad. (If they have it’s a triumph, if they haven’t they need a kick in the pants.)
A new word that encompasses what “birth parent” “first parent” and so on does.
I want a word that encompasses the warmth of the parent that has to struggle to give up their children and also encompasses the loss and the emotion that these people have to go through, and still communicate a sense of family. So that it works in front of “family” and”mother” and “country” without insulting anyone else in the triad, yet is realistic about what they had to do. I think I can dream. I’d take a book arguing for the use of a whole new word. Sure.
More memoirs from birth parents/first parents.
Lots more of them. It should flood and spill over to catch up to the other parts of the triad. More, more!! Psychological studies, thoughts about after reunion stories, and get them into the dialog at conventions about adoption and seminars!
A safe ground to talk about adoption agencies, practices, and what they’ve done for all parts of the triad.
How good are they and perhaps be able to rate them. And get the agencies to participate rather than put their foot down and threaten to sue. =P (I think I’m still dreaming) ‘Cause agencies, you can *really* learn about adoption from people who actually adopt, were adopted and had to have their children stolen or given up.
Better stories about After Reunion
To help adoptees with the gap between the parents that gave them up and to help the parents deal with the adult the adoptee has likely become.
Children’s books that rather than focusing on the universality of adoption, focus on a singular POV of adoption, with the focus on making a lot of them, to help adoptive parents of ALL different backgrounds deal with it.
Books that deal with integration rather than separation of culture, with reasonable tips on how to integrate a culture one has no experience with, variety of views thereof with different cultural and religious focuses. Also how to deal with integration without cultural misappropriation.
Books that deal with the humdrum of everyday life in Korea for both Adoptees and Adoptive parents. (and every other international country…. hey, the anthropologist in me would go into a gleeful oma if all of the cultures were covered on planet Earth with all subcultures covered as well)
Better coverage on socialization for the countries that are most adopted from, with printed phrases one should ask the foster parent in their native tongue. Avoid the advertisement, but more of the practicality. Also maybe include prep for the arriving child.
More books about the archaeology and history of the Three Kingdoms. I’ll take all of the books in the Seoul Public Library translated on this subject–oh and anything Joseon too.
Books that focus on the separation of the East Asian Countries and cultures within so that one can compare and contrast these countries.
A book that focuses on helping people outside of adoption and those in the extended family understand what adoption is, what myths exist and what to and not to ask an adoptee.
A pattern for a three Kingdoms version of a hanbok and a study of how it differed from the Hanfu.
A Library that deals with adoption.
A GOA’L branch in the US.