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Comments for A portrait of one Korean Adoptee--Kim Yunmi Dot Com http://www.kimyunmi.com Wed, 03 Jul 2013 10:20:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.8.1 Comment on Adoptism by Mars http://www.kimyunmi.com/2010/11/29/adoptism/#comment-292 Wed, 03 Jul 2013 10:20:47 +0000 http://www.kimyunmi.com/?p=78#comment-292 Thank you so much for your dedication to fidinng peace through the written and spoken word. I have been facing these emotions since age three (when I learned of my own adoption). I live one county away from where I was born and have been drawn to actually move back here three times from other places. I’m connected to the land and the energy the surroundings bring to my very soul. Just to know I’m near her (my birth mother), appreciating the environment she knew, and living life out of a joy I can’t describe is healing. To know someone is brave enough to step up and heal, himself and others, encourages me to keep investigating, seeking, and writing. I’d love to see and hear more of your work! Thank you. Thank you. Bless you!

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Comment on Where are the Happy Adoptees? by Keys http://www.kimyunmi.com/2011/04/22/where-are-the-happy-adoptees/#comment-289 Tue, 02 Jul 2013 04:33:14 +0000 http://www.kimyunmi.com/?p=133#comment-289 Boy that really helps me the heck out.

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Comment on Make yourself an International Adoptee 1 by Vivek http://www.kimyunmi.com/2010/11/22/make-yourself-an-international-adoptee-1/#comment-194 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 20:39:40 +0000 http://www.kimyunmi.com/?p=29#comment-194 Just finished lieinstng to the second part Wonderful to hear Mark, a good friend, speak of the KAAN conference experience. I am a KAAN-mommy who has attended for the past 5 years or so with our young children in tow. Since they were 3 and 5 KAAN has been the highlight of their summer. Many our closest family friends are adult and teen adoptees and other families who we have met through the conference. We visit each other, celebrate holidays together, and have even traveled together. Its amazing for our kids to have a circle of older mentors in their lives, watching them grow, and available to support them through experiences that we can’t have direct knowledge of as white parents raised by biological families. And, always, its essential for us to hear, respect and learn from the experience of adult adoptees -personally from friends and as conference presenters- even (especially) when it is emotionally challenging, in order to learn to better support our kids. Thanks again for a great interview.Martha

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Comment on Adoptism by Mahendra http://www.kimyunmi.com/2010/11/29/adoptism/#comment-193 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 19:49:38 +0000 http://www.kimyunmi.com/?p=78#comment-193 Hi, Adoption Critic. Thanks for your comment.In my oipnion, allowing reciprocal access for the mother for the ABC would not help. This is because OBC access isn’t really about anyone’s privacy and the naysayers know that. Rather, it’s about maintaining the status quo and power imbalances in adoption by keeping as many sides as possible (e.g. adoptees and original parents) completely disenfranchised. The industry does not want anyone finding anyone else without their approval and without everyone going through their processes and price sheets.Reciprocal access also is not entirely in-line with the U.S. movement’s quest for equality. Not because mothers and fathers do not deserve to know the identity of their surrendered adult sons and daughters but because it’s not how non-adoptees are treated. Adoptee Rights seeks for adult adoptees to be treated the same as, preferably back under the same vital stats laws as, everyone else who isn’t adopted. So, if a given State doesn’t allow parents to access their adult offspring’s birth certificates, the adopted should be treated no differently.As I said in the article, we can’t make this about searching and finding. Foremost because not every adoptee wants to search or find. There are a million and one reasons (the #1 being because it’s MINE) that an adoptee might want their OBC that has nothing to do with reunion. Also, as I wrote in the article, a great deal of people can’t find anyone using their OBC at all. Because of this, what I have long advocated for is for equal access for adoptees along with the establishment of a free, optional, active registry where adoptees and original families can access information about each other and receive search help and/or counselling, should they need it.

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Comment on Where are the Happy Adoptees? by Salome http://www.kimyunmi.com/2011/04/22/where-are-the-happy-adoptees/#comment-192 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 14:52:50 +0000 http://www.kimyunmi.com/?p=133#comment-192 Holy crap, Kevin! I’m impressed by your inrievtew with Valerie Andrews from Origins Canada Inc. You do a great job allowing the conversation to unfold without an agenda and without a lot of written commentary afterward. I would have had a really hard time keeping my mixed emotions capped. I found her views to be extremely troubling which, of course, is good because it helps me to stretch.Two thoughts: Andrews’ romanticized version of the “natural parent” and the “transformation of motherhood” is just as dubious as the commonly romanticized view of adoption. Using terminology of adoption being “human trafficking” and adoption agencies being “brokers” is a super challenging and important to think about even though it makes my heart hurt and my blood curdle. (!!)I’ve really enjoyed your podcasts bringing awareness to different perspectives and aspects of adoption. Thank you.

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Comment on About Mi by Hassan http://www.kimyunmi.com/2010/11/27/about-mi/#comment-190 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 05:34:25 +0000 http://www.kimyunmi.com/?p=73#comment-190 this the way i do it and i am sure there are many other ways. i am not into measurement so use your juemegdnt.ingredients you need:a)green onion. chop green onion into small pieces. i use green onion instead of garlic because garlic is too over powering for me. b)salt. any salt will do but sea or himalayan pink salt is what i use.c)sesame seed. crush the seed by placing them in the palm of your hand and use your thumb to rub. crushed sesame seed brings out the aroma.d)sesame oile)korean hot chili pepper flake. gochugarustep 1.boil water with a pinch of salt. enough water to be able to cover the soybean sprout.step 2.once the water boils turn the heat off put the sprout in and place the lid and wait about 45 seconds to 1 minute. the amount of time will depend on your taste. the longer you wait the softer it gets and the less you wait the crisper it is.step 3.blanch the sprout to stop the cooking process and let the sprout soak till it is cold. takes about 30 seconds.step 4.squeeze the sprout with your hand to remove excess water.step 5.place the squeezed sprout in a bowl.step 6.add all the ingredients and mix it with your hand by gentle squeezing and tossing.step 7.once done enjoy and eat it.this technique can be use for spinach, korean zuchini and many other types of vegetables.see how easy it is. once you know how to make muchim, total time to prepare this should be less than 15minutes. i make enough to last me few days. very healthy and delicious. try it and tell me how you did.

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Comment on 3 Year Campaign Results in the 1st Group of Overseas Korean Adoptees Restoring Citizenship by Gera http://www.kimyunmi.com/2011/04/23/3-year-campaign-results-in-the-1st-group-of-overseas-korean-adoptees-restoring-citizenship/#comment-187 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 23:38:21 +0000 http://www.kimyunmi.com/?p=139#comment-187 I listened to the podscat this AM, and I find myself neither shocked nor horrified by the very dismissive, deceitful way in which the post-adoption agency staffer replied to you upon learning of your upcoming return to your homeland. It is typical adoption indu$try pablum. They really didn’t want you (or any other adoptees) to make the trip and possibly reconnect with your first/natural/bio family. Why not? They fear that you will uncover the truth about the ruthless, coercive and even criminal actions that the thugs (and I do mean thugs) in the industry engaged in to separate you from your natural mother in the first place. The industry is driven by greed, money, power and a lot of we know what’s best for you, now go away and be grateful for the life we arranged for you and that your afamily paid good money for!! Imagine if, for a moment, the staffer had written, How great that you are able to make this trip to your place of birth, and possibly reunite with your natural mother, father, siblings, and extended family. I hope you’ll have wonderful experiences and will find answers to some of the questions nearly all adoptees want and need to have answered. Be open to this new and wonderful adventure. I hope you will share this part of your life journey with us (at the agency) when you return. Those simple words might have brought you some measure of comfort and reassurance and might have made things a lot easier for you. Instead the agency wanted to minimize your own very personal life experience by telling you that you weren’t ready and it would be months of their precious (and costly) counseling that would get you ready!! Yikes, what a bunch of know-it-all phoneys. I have been through (and am still in) reunion, and, yes, it is challenging and painful at times, but oh, so very, very worth it. Like nothing anyone could ever imagine. It changes everything to finally learn the truth. Keum, please keep peeling back the layers of this onion

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