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New Resource to Look At

The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist’s
Notebook–What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us About Loss, Love, and Healing
by Bruce D. Perry

This book is really good. I highly recommend it. It goes over things like basic
parenting, what children need, myths of parenting (without trouncing on cultural
differences), and how to really treat RAD (attachment disorder). Saying things
like Holding therapy can make the child worse, not better.

What I like about the book is that it has a really good narrative structure and
explains the rational for the treatment as well as the results of the various
cases. So it feels less like lecturing and more like problem-solving. The book
is also pretty good about admitting past mistakes and showing results of those
mistakes and what he wished he could have done better.

I have a thing for psychological books–especially since that community tends to
impose RAD on foster and Adoptive children and point fingers at various parts of
the triad as maladjusted and culturally wrong. (Not to say RAD doesn’t exist, as
to say it’s over diagnosed) The problem with other books is they go over the
symptoms for pages and pages then don’t go on to tell you how to solve it. So by
the end, they have links of places to look, but haven’t really given you what a
good therapy session would look like, what would make a good doctor and the
thought process behind why this person thinks so.

This book doesn’t do that, and is pleasing because it doesn’t place immediate
blame, but goes into the thought process of both the patients and the doctor.
It’s a little wordy in places, however traumatized or not, I think it’s a good
book to have in your arsenal.